‘LISTEN’:
When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving advice you have not done what I … asked.
When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.
So, please listen and just hear me, and, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn: and I will listen to you.